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你想太少了 #001

你的快樂、你的表現、你的時間

「你想太少了」是我在一週內所讀的、認為值得推薦的文章,加上簡短摘要並節錄文中最令我有感的段落。讀者可以依照自己的情境(粗黑標題)選擇和當下狀況相符的文章閱讀。

常常有人跟我說「你想太多了」,起初我非常厭惡這句話,覺得為什麼不能夠「想太多」?我承認我非常跳躍性思考,這些思考大多極其負面,或是不會有任何解答的空想。後來我發現這句話可以適用於「你想太多(負面的情境)了」、「你想太多(空泛的問題)了」⋯⋯等情形。所以我開始對「你想太多了」改觀,其實想太多不是一件壞事,你可以去思考,但盡量不要去做過於負面或者無意義的多餘思考(雖然這是我做了21年的事情)。

相對於「你想太多了」,卻從來沒有人會說「你想太少了」。很多我不時會想到的問題,我的朋友們卻從來也沒有想過。所以我將這句話作為系列文的名稱。

無法感受到快樂

作者的觀點是,人生的目標並非是盲目追逐快樂(物質、金錢、感情),而是讓自己成為一個有用處的人。不用是很偉大的事情,倘若做完這件事會讓你感到有成就感,即使再微小,也會讓你感到一定程度的快樂。

  1. I believe that happiness is merely a byproduct of usefulness.
  2. What really makes me happy is when I’m useful. When I create something that others can use. Or even when I create something I can use.
  3. “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” — — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. Don’t take it too seriously. Don’t overthink it. Just DO something that’s useful. Anything.

想要在某個領域有出色的表現

如何在一個領域中有一番作為?作者認為內在動機(why)才是重點,而不是你制定的策略或計畫(how)。當你擁有足夠且清晰的內在動機,自然你會知道你該做些什麼,也不用擔心結果如何,因為一切都會在正軌上。你現在身處的是你內部的返照,若現在的情況不是你所期望的,那就提升自己。把20%的精力放在工作上,其餘的80%用來休憩和精進自我。

  1. “Work hard at your job and you can make a living. Work hard on yourself and you can make a fortune.” — Jim Rohn
  2. While others are trying to improve their job, you’re continuously improving yourself, expanding your vision, skills, and abilities.
  3. You need to put yourself into positions that create immense pressure. The kind of pressure that will either make or break you. This is how you purge out your weakness and small-mindedness. It won’t be pretty. But it will change you. And eventually, you’ll rise up. New. Changed. Better.
  4. If you don’t know who you are, you’ll always try to be someone else. And thus, you’ll never be the best. Your work will always be a cheap imitation. It will lack the feeling that produced the work or the idea.
  5. Becoming the best is about never being satisfied with what you’ve done. It’s about continually improving who you are. It’s knowing success will come because you know who you are and what you stand for.

想要將時間發揮到最大效用

作者想教大家的不是如何為自己爭取更多的時間,而是將你擁有的時間發揮到最大的效用。重點就是判斷當下做哪件事是good/better/best,然後專注於那些你認為是best的事情,不要被不必要的瑣事給分心。(目前在嘗試寫文章或是做正事時把line登出,我很容易分心和朋友聊起天來)

最後作者提到的要點——也是我最需要的——就是做你心志的主宰。我真的花太多時間在「想太多」,畢竟是二十一年的陋習。常常稍微處於不錯的狀態接著又被打回原形,這時我就會很沮喪。作者提供的方法我覺得不錯,背誦一段會讓你感到明朗、帶給你希望的句子,我舉文中的一句話做範例:

Every day is simply practice at getting better.

  1. In every situation, you must ask yourself, “Is this the best possible use of my time?” Is this the best approach? Or am I settling for less?
  2. However, once you determine who you want to become, you must start acting like that person now. Otherwise, you will never become that person.
  3. Once you know what you want, it becomes painfully obvious what you don’t want. Thus, you won’t be seduced by the many good things in life distracting you from the better and best.
  4. When given an option, choose the harder right. As we can learn from Steve Jobs, standards aren’t for bending. Consistently walk the higher road and you will be transformed internally and externally.
  5. Become the master of your thoughts. When you catch yourself mindlessly wandering, or going places counter to your values and goals, stop yourself. Memorize a poem, quote, scripture, or song that brings clarity and light to you. Whenever you have a negative or unhelpful thought, recite or ponder your memorized friend. Then, reflect on your values and goals. Eventually, you’ll get better — even automatic — at thinking about the things you want to think about. Your thoughts are what create your reality.

把握睡前的黃金時間

這段時間是每天都會存在但最也可能被浪費掉的時間,絕大多數的人不是在滑手機就是在看電視(上課或工作一整天總是會想要徹底放鬆),但若能在這段時間中專注地做一件你有熱情或想學習的事(半小時到一小時都行,重點是要持續,甚至不一定要在睡前,可以自己做調整,也許是在早晨)那麼長期累積下來,會有顯著的進步(不論是對個人或是工作上)。

拿我現在在做的事情來說(在medium發表文章),這是一件以往我絕對不會做也不熟悉的事,雖然現在的文筆還是很生疏、字句和語意不是非常通順,但我相信只要持續下去,過了一段時間後就會看到成長。

  1. Striking a balance and committing time, attention and energy to that one special project that needs your focus is possible if you really want to pursue a meaningful project. The trick is to turn that passion project into a habit! What you do every night after work can be life and career changing!
  2. If you have a good idea of who you are and what you want to do with your life, you are half way to a successful life. Invest in yourself, it’s the best investment you can ever make. Create a bigger version of yourself. Don’t settle on a self-imposed plateau; always aim a bit higher than before.
  3. It’s not about the kind of skills you acquire because you have to, but because you want to and it feels right. Something you are happy to do without hesitation. Skills that are unique to you. Skills you can only learn by doing. Skills that can only be developed when you find your true self.
  4. Blogging encourages deep thinking. When you begin to share what you know with others, your ability to communicate gets better. Blogging helps your brain to stay active. You will also be able to link ideas and pieces of information better.

其實我現在在做的事情就只是很簡單的把我認為值得一讀的文章(設計相關、有啟發性的)分享出來,再穿插一些我個人的想法,在自己做紀錄的同時,希望可以因為我的文章而幫助到人。

以上是本週選文,歡迎跟我分享你的看法:)

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